Polyamory

Imagine a world where everyone was raised in a wheelchair. And as we grew, our arms were strong, but our legs atrophied. Our travel was limited to set paths carved by our ancestors. Getting off that path was extremely difficult in the chair. Anytime we thought about getting up, or tried, we were derided, name called, shamed.

And as those that overcome that shame took our first steps, we stumbled and fell immediately. It hurt, and we didn’t get far. We longed for the comfort of the wheelchair. Our culture took those stumbling blocks, and that pain in our legs, as proof that the paths carved out where the best to go.

But some persevered. And we trained our unused muscles. We came up with methods that were effective, and not painful at all. And we started to walk, then run. Others were startled by the site of us standing. Some got angry, some scared, some envious. Some were inspired, however.

Jumping out of a wheelchair after unnecessarily lifelong confinement is an intimidating task. But our biggest block is that in our head: what if we fall? What if we break?
I’d love to just say “Yes, you can. YOU can do this. I did!” But that’s not very convincing. My goal here is to empower all interested in an open relationship with a few tools to make it successful. I’d like to provide all the information between the lines that you may not have read in the classical tomes. I’m here to tell you what it’s going to feel like to be open, more than giving you a to-do list.

Contents:

Opening up
Opening Up
jealousy
Deconstructing Jealousy

 

 

boyfriend
Casual Intimacy

 

 

 

 

Compersion
Compersion

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Three Kinds of Overlapping Love (Coming Soon)
Honesty (Coming Soon)
Boundaries (Coming Soon)
The Toxicity of Consent Culture (Coming Soon)

In practicing polyamory, I kinda dived right in before I really read anything. I practiced, and learned the hard way; so many lessons in my life already spilled out on hundreds of pages of relationship manuals. Now that open relationships tiptoeing into the mainstream, required reading is the first step for the uninitiated. And although I think the current literature focuses on a lot on ideals, values, boundaries, and dos and don’ts, there is a dearth of information of some of the more cerebral, emotional, intuitive, and frankly radically transformative consequences of being open.

Too many people I know are curious, and intellectually attracted to the ideas, but cannot resolve some of the more entrenched emotions they feel. Exploration stays in the realm of hypothetical, with practice honesty, communication, and freedom that come with polyamory templated onto current lifestyles.

Welcome, and enjoy.